“I’ve fallen in love with you and I’ll never let you go. I love you more than anyone, I just had to let you know. And if you ever wonder why, I don’t know what I’ll say, but I’ll never stop loving you, each and every day.”
why can’t you be contented?
Is it because there is no satisfaction here in life?
Or is it because you are too selfish that you always wanted to have more?
In life….
I’ve been through with that question..
But sometimes, I still can’t get the real reason why can’t we be contented in some category of life…
There is no goal to reach that will bring us to happily-ever after. We are not incomplete until we find out soul mate. We are not halves that cannot be whole without a relationship.
True Love is not a painful obsession. It is not taking a hostage or being a hostage. It is not all-consuming, isolating, or constricting. Believing we can’t be whole or happy without a relationship is unhealthy and leads us to accept deprivation and abuse, and to engage in manipulation, dishonesty, and power struggles. The type of love we learned about growing up is an addiction, a form of toxic love.
Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship - it is natural and healthy. There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship that will last forever - expecting it to last forever is what is dysfunctional. Expectations set us up to be a victim - and cause to abandon ourselves in search of our goal.
If we can start seeing relationships not as the goal but as opportunities for growth then we can start having more functional relationships. A relationship that ends is not a failure or a punishment - it is a lesson.
As long as our definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever - we are set up to fail. As long as we believe that we have to have the other in our life to be happy, we are really just an addict trying to protect our supply - using another person as our drug of choice. That is not True Love - nor is it Loving.
i had a long conversation with one of my guy friends that night.. and he pointed out something i didn’t notice before.. but now that he did.. i can’t help but agree with what was pointed out.. yet i don’t agree with what he concluded of me.. he said that i’m a woman who likes the chase.. the attention that guys give me.. and the time i spend with them.. but when things get serious i would withdraw and run off.. so i admit it.. i’m afraid of commitments.. and i believe that love… in any form.. will not last forever.. that’s why they should always end when the chase is over.. and then he concluded me to be a player.. well… am i? i personally don’t think i am.. i value people’s feelings and i never intentionally try to toy with them.. just that i can’t bring myself to say yes.. i like my single status and the freedom it gives me.. i just can’t vision myself being attached to one person for too long.. so does that make me a player?
i was thinking (yet again) why do people cheat or at least be tempted to. I never could understand why cheaters would hurt someone they claim they love. I used "claim" for love means being truthful.
and now that i’m in a situation wherein i could either cheat or not, i have caught a glimpse of the reason–correction reasons.
i could not generalize them; all i could do is tell you mine. Perhaps, i was feeling unloved. to be frank my current relationship is far from ideal. i am lucky if i could meet him twice a month. the messages have become habits rather than a portrayal of feelings. they say absence makes a heart grow fonder, and for me that is quite sad.
but why can’t i leave him? i want to say i’m doing it out of guilt, because of hurting him more than once…but i can’t help but think perhaps i am afraid. i have departed from my numbness, that the shortness of love no matter how small it is would destroy me.
in the end, i stand corrected, the ONLY reason cheaters exist is selfishness.
Note On Cheating..
i was thinking (yet again) why do people cheat or at least be tempted to. I never could understand why cheaters would hurt someone they claim they love. I used "claim" for love means being truthful.
and now that i’m in a situation wherein i could either cheat or not, i have caught a glimpse of the reason–correction reasons.
i could not generalize them; all i could do is tell you mine. Perhaps, i was feeling unloved. to be frank my current relationship is far from ideal. i am lucky if i could meet him twice a month. the messages have become habits rather than a portrayal of feelings. they say absence makes a heart grow fonder, and for me that is quite sad.
but why can’t i leave him? i want to say i’m doing it out of guilt, because of hurting him more than once…but i can’t help but think perhaps i am afraid. i have departed from my numbness, that the shortness of love no matter how small it is would destroy me.
in the end, i stand corrected, the ONLY reason cheaters exist is selfishness.
LetTiNg gO!!!!
Letting Go!!!
To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it is the realization that I can’t control
another.
To let go is not enable,
but to allow learning from natural
consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means that outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame
another,
I can only change myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in thew middle arranging
outcomes,
but to allow others to effect their own
outcomes.
To let go is not to be protective,
it is to permit others to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold and argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to
correct them.
To let go is not to ajust everything to my
desires,
but to take each day as it comes and to
cherish the moment.
To let go is not to criticize and to regulate anyone,
but to grow and live for the fuure.
TO LET GO IS TO FEARLESS AND LOVE MORE…
